I appeal to you, brothers, to watch out for those who cause divisions and create obstacles contrary to the doctrine that you have been taught; avoid them.
This old world never ceases to provide amazement to my mind! And it is not that I am being judgemental towards this Mom or her decisions regarding her child. It is her child and her decision as to how she will raise this child, it will not affect me one way or the other.
TWO THINGS COME TO MY MIND..WELL NO ACTUALLY THREE…OKAY FOUR….
This particular incident is very contrary to what I have been taught to say the least. What I have been taught is that Jesus loves everyone and personal relationships with Jesus are the business of the individual and Jesus.
What I have also been taught is that as Christians we are not supposed to speak evil, to be hypocrites, to judge others, but to love our neighbors as ourselves. I know, I know, this is sometimes a most difficult task (trust me, I want to sometimes love my “neighbors” little head off) and by neighbor I do not mean the people living on my street.
The safety of this child and his family. Now that Mom (who claims to be well educated and an ordained minister) has clearly decided to make the decision to go very public with all of this does she really honestly think that this little guy won’t be bullied? Lady pull your head out!!! First off kids are CRUEL – and often over simple things like your shoes are green, your hair is matted, your ugly, whatever, kids can be cruel little creatures. This little person IS going to get bullied. Mom thought he was depressed because he couldn’t play with girls toys, just wait until NONE of his peers accept him because he doesn’t belong in either group. Now don’t get me wrong I have black friends, mixed relationship friends (and family for that matter), gay friends, lesbian friends, recovering drug addicts, alcoholics, even a couple of homeless folks so trust me I ain’t one to look down from my high horse, cuz there isn’t one here on my ranch. But spare the child in this case would be my mantra.
What the heck is this lady thinking?????????? My Callie is five and I get to let her make a decision once in awhile. These decisions are: would you like to watch Umi Zoomi, or Bubble Guppies, do you want a juice box or milk, here are two outfits to wear pick which one you want to wear? The MOST difficult decision this little lady makes is to try choose one from the other. I cannot imagine her trying to make a decision regarding her sexuality at the age of five. Oh and BTW – She does play with Ninja Turtles, is in Jiu Jitsu, knows the football rules, and has play cars – this does not mean that she wants to be a boy, it means she wants to be a five year old kid.
THIS IS AYEESHIA!
I stopped by a local watering hole today to see some old friends. We talked racing, baseball, touched lightly on politics, just simply sat and caught up on life’s happenings. Although we were basically two old souls to ourselves I couldn’t help but notice the goings on around us. There were lot’s of things that I as a respectable woman would consider disrespectful to ones own demeanor. As these things were taking place and another patron seemed to join in the fun I boldly asked “what if THAT was YOUR daughter”? SHAME was the look I saw as he pondered my question. I then said “what if you walked in here and that was YOUR daughter behaving that way”? All of a sudden a different perspective came about the place. “Well if that was my daughter, (stammer) my daughter wouldn’t be this or that, she wouldn’t act that way”, “really” I replied, “but it’s okay for her Father to watch another’s daughter acting that way and laugh and enjoy it”? What I got from all of this is that you will be respected and treated by the way you carry yourself. If you have to use your body or some kind of explicit weird show of sexual display then you will NEVER get the respect that you portray yourself to want. I can only imagine walking into a place and seeing my Callie acting with such disrespect to her self. WHAT are we as a generation teaching these people. Respect yourself and others will follow suite.
Lately people and self respect thoughts have been taking up space in my mind.
The quote “People these days gain attention by losing self respect” has been spinning round in my head.
I myself have been victim to the loss of self respect in some areas of my life, not on purpose but simply by slowly allowing people in my life (work, family, friends, loved ones, even simply rude general public) to treat me as if I were not worthy of complete respect in all areas of my own world and life.
Why do we go places that we don’t need or want to go just because whomever we are with thinks that’s a “cool” thing to do? Why do we hide under/behind/beside/beneath something or someone that we know doesn’t flatter, doesn’t cover, doesn’t support, doesn’t challenge, doesn’t praise our inner self and who we are?
My personal conclusion is that in all reality most of us have simply forgotten our self worth and how precious we are to our Creator and those the truly love and care for us. We are the children of a King, our very hairs are numbered! We are ALL precious in His site and in the end His site is what will matter.
Until we take the time to seriously consider who we really are, who our supporters really are, who/what is best for our own personal needs, what we have done and where we want to go we will never see the beauty that self respect can bring.
Self respect seems to be a rarity now a days. We should not sacrifice our character to fit someone else’s mold, wants, expectations, life-style. If one only approves of another because of a nice body, sexual favors, because they have no self respect and can be used easily, because they have a nice car, bank account, house then they themselves have no respect for and should be avoided at all costs.
We we begin to sacrifice our own morals or character and/or self respect we begin to change and to think this or that is okay even if we know in our heart that if Momma was watching we wouldn’t be doing whatever it is.
I have found this a tough lesson to learn for myself and it certainly takes daily attention and a devoted spirit to keep up. The journey to find myself and gain back my own self respect has been a long one and I am happily walking the path, it has not been easy or without pain and weariness but I can say it has been worth the change.
Look into your heart, your head, your thoughts, your lifestyle, just step back and look in to your very own world and simply ask, will He my Father approve of how I am making use of the perfect and precious vessel that He Himself created?
Matthew 7:1-5 ESV / 322 helpful votes
“Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.
Happy Friday! It’s the spring break time of year for many, the time of year to hang with the kids, take a rest from studies, take that trip with the family. Spring break to me is kind of like the New Year season, it’s that second chance to spring anew what we were unable to accomplish as our stated New Years commitment.
Sometimes we feel like we are over worked, over stressed, over tired, overwhelmed at what this season in our lives we are dealing with. I myself feel a bit overwhelmed at what the great pitcher is throwing at me, however I must remain strong in my faith and in my belief that my Father in heaven has a plan that is NOT for me to be overwhelmed. My problem is that I want to do it my way and He has another voice, reason, plan for me. It’s often difficult in our crazy lives to just sit still a moment and hear what He has to say.
There are many times in life when it feels like the world is crashing around you. Life gets extremely busy and you have so much to do. Debt may increase, and some may even lose their jobs. Just remember, you are not alone. We have all felt like this before, but we must do our best to compromise and figure out how to relieve the stress.
I choose to believe that I am the princess of a King and in his word I will find comfort and peace.
If like me you are feeling like your whole world is tumbling into a trash pile just take a moment to visit with your Father in heaven and rest in the peace that only He can provide.
For I am the LORD your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you. (Isa. 41:13 NIV)
Happy Weekend all, and Happy Birthday (tomorrow) to my Momma who I cherish with all my heart and who has shown me to rest and trust in the Lord our God.